Product Description
Your World Needs This Game
When you are constantly bombarded with messages of not being good enough, it can be challenging to feel confident and secure. Totem the Feel Good Game allows players to hear the strengths others appreciate about them.
Totem is inspired by Self-Determination Theory research (SDT) which shows that affiliation, competency, and autonomy are key to promoting well-being and performance.
This easy-to-play card game profoundly impacts how we see ourselves and others. Use it as a tool for team building, therapy, counseling, and even just a fun family game night! Each player walks away feeling celebrated and affirmed.
Whether you want to boost your self-esteem, build closer connections, or play a game where everyone wins, Totem is here to help.
6,400 Ways to Feel Loved & Appreciated
Whether you’re a ‘sophisticated orca’ or a ‘charismatic chameleon,’ this game leads to hours of laughs, hugs, and surprising conversations.
Entertaining & Enlightening
Each player shares how you inspire them and what qualities they admire most about you. You may even shed a few happy tears along the way!
Lasting Therapeutic Gain
Skip the short-term thrill of retail therapy that leaves you empty. Instead, invest your time in an experience from which everyone walks away a winner.
A Lifetime of Positive Memories
Make playing this engaging card game a regular habit with your family, friends, or coworkers. Witness how much happier and closer you become.
Family Bonding Fun
Reconnect with your kids as they get older. It helps break down communication barriers, restores trust, and boosts their self-esteem.
A School Counselor’s Tool
Help your students open up and learn how to deal with difficult emotions by teaching them the power of gratitude.
Build a More Successful Team
Celebrate the talents of your colleagues. This creates a stronger sense of shared purpose, communication, and cooperation.
Mental Health Retreat
Designed to give you and the people you care about a chance to be kind to one another. Face the challenges of the day with a more positive attitude.
Add to Cart
Add to Cart
Customer Reviews
4.5 out of 5 stars
1,322
3.9 out of 5 stars
40
Price
$22.99$22.99 $24.95$24.95
The Best Crowd for the Game
Kids, Friends, Family, Patients, & Colleagues Romantic Adult Couples
Number of Players
3-8 People 1-4 Couples
Easy, Engaging, and Fun to Play
✓
✓
Improve Your Social Skills
✓
✓
Discover Each Other’s Strengths
✓
✓
Express & Receive Appreciation
✓
✓
Discover Your Strengths: These therapy games for kids encourage self-discovery and self-reflection. Uncover hidden talents and unique qualities as you engage in thought-provoking discussions.
Deeper Connections: Totem card games for families help you go deeper with loved ones. Explore important topics and share experiences while having a blast with this engaging team building card game
Build Stronger Teams: Foster empathy, trust-building, and adaptability through these enriching mental health games. Our conversation cards help you uncover shared strengths at work, school, or home
Ideal for Therapy Sessions: Totem offers versatile counseling games. CBT Therapists, counselors, and educators can use these fun games to facilitate open conversations and self-expression
No Losers, Only Winners: With these social skills games for kids and adults, there are no losers, only winners. Share, learn, and grow together, knowing that every interaction brings you closer
Customers say
Customers find the game fun, uplifting, and effective. They mention it’s a great team exercise, gives self-affirmations, and is a meaningful way to connect with others. Some also appreciate the card design. However, some customers differ on the ease of use.
AI-generated from the text of customer reviews
JK –
Totem Terrific about yourself
Totem is an amazing game which promotes self affirmation and self realization from different peoples perspective. Although Iâve played it with adults my favorite use is with my students in our social emotional learning class. There are many adaptations you can use with the game to build self-confidence, Self-awareness, and perspective. I was not going to buy it due to the cost but Iâve already used it multiple times in two weeks. Itâs small so it can go in a travel bag, purse, backpack etc. and very accommodating to any space to play. It is a giftable game which I can see even young adults embracing. The directions are easy to follow and everyone leaves feeling very good about themselves! The game can be played in long or short sessions. It lends itself to adaptability so I have even used it By playing one round each day. Not only does it give you self affirmations through the other people playing but it also allows you to show them things that you recognize in a positive way also.
Krista Wyman –
Best purchase for my family and classroom.
I purchased this because I was researching games for my classroom to build community. I decided to try it out with my family. This is such a wonderful game. We pick out an animal that represents the dealer. It took a bit of convincing to my animal lover daughter that she shouldn’t pick her favorite animal but the one that represents the dealer 🙂 Then we get to talk about the wonderful things associated with the dealer and their positive traits. And you get to do it again with the second set of cards. When it was my turn to be the dealer I had to hold back the tears!Totem provides a structured and safe way to share compliments. It’s not an wide open field. Because you have to select from 7 cards, it gives you boundaries and helps focus your thoughts about a person. I can tell you that my 7 year old son was better able to give positive comments about his sister using this game than he ever has. It wasn’t a general “you’re nice” or “I like your shirt.” He was able to articulate “I think you’re like a whale because even when I’m having a hard time you can be calm and help me through it.” I was BLOWN AWAY!The kids keep asking to play the game every day and love to call each other by their given totem. Best purchase for our family in a long time! I’m very excited to try this out with my classroom throughout the year and will continue to love playing it with my family. Buy it. You won’t be disappointed.
Suzanne Chambers –
CorpHR Bootcamp Focused on Totem
About a year ago my department was moved into CorpHR. Even though we all knew each other, for months it still felt like two departments meeting together but without any bonding. Eventually our VP of CorpHR announced we were having a department bootcamp and asked if anyone had any ideas for a team-building exercise. I had previously bought Totem months before to use along with DISC and suggested we use it. Wow! Our plan was to do only one person due to time constraints. That absolutely did NOT happened. Going around the first time for one person was so meaningful that the VP announced we were scrapping everything else planned for the day and only concentrate on Totem. What a day! There were tears, sincere observations, meaningful bonding, unknown feelings shared and beautiful friendships formed. In fact, as a special surprise for everyone Iâm having someone create a totem with all our animals to give to each of the ten people in our department. Thank you for creating Totem! We love it and what it did to help us open up to each other!
dmunn69 –
Great to play with Teenagers
I love this game, we played it at Thanksgiving dinner and had a ball! The instructions were hard to read, they are printed on small cards in a print color that is difficult to see and on a black background. Directions could be simpler and printed on a separate document so that it doesn’t take a magnifying glass and quite a bit of time to figure out how to play it. We ended up starting the game and then adapting the rules so that the game moved a little faster. I would also be nice to have an example of what the animal cards mean, maybe put a brief description on each card with what that animal represents. Otherwise a fun and uplifting game to play!
Sunny –
Amazing for teams
I have used this game a lot with my skills groups, and every single time, they leave feeling good! Even my participants who tend to think these things are corny really love this game. It’s a must have for teams. 100% worth the investment – thanks for making this deck!
MotherNature01 –
Fun AND powerful- my group loves it
I have tested this game once in an adult counseling group. Participants were thoughtful and thorough and we only had time for one person to be dealer and get feedback, but they asked to play weekly until everyone has a turn.I think it will be good for bonding and self esteem. Time will tell whether it will hold up to repeat play. I imagine it would be good for team building in groups of teens through adults.
Maxemilio Jimenez –
Slow moving, too wordy, needs actual building pieces
Loved the idea of this, actually playing it with ages 9, 11, 13, 14 & another adult, it was too tedious & slow moving. By the time about the 3rd player made their totem everybody was bored.It would have been WAY more fun if there were actual totem-building playing pieces to make a real totem pole.Love the idea, but took too long & moved too slowly with several players.
Cliente Amazon –
Me parece un juego fantástico para fomentar la autoestima. Tiene un tamaño pequeñito ideal para llevar de viaje, etc.Alguien sabrÃa si se puede comprar en español?
Stephen –
As title says, bought this for my partner and I but didn’t realise (our fault) that this is for 3 players or more. Great idea though, really like the premise so look forward to playing properly.
Kaz Kearns –
A Brilliant product was about to use immediately in facilitated conversation and generated quite a lot of energy. Really nice visual and the meaning behind each card has been well thought out.
Andrea –
I bought this game for a team of 9 individuals. It was a hit and although we didnât have time for everyone to get a turn we are going to carry it over for our next meeting. Itâs a great fun and not awkward way to build repore/trust by providing admiration and thanks.
AIJ –
Itâs the second 1 I bought. We absolutely love it, great game to play and bond with friends and family. Suitable for young children 8+.